Why are people even getting married these days? You ever wonder what gets people to commit to one another, even when there are flashing messages of getting anything you want - no strings attached - right now! All around us, the world is thriving on the "non-committal" relationship. The sampler tray is a popular way of exploring the world and people these days, and access is unrivaled with the rise of technology that helps us communicate, travel, and purchase!
So what makes people, who have everything they want at the tips of their fingers, decide to settle down, commit to one person, and stay there? How do we commit the a relationship? What makes it happy for life?
In an article by the washington post, an interesting statistic reads;
"According to the census statistics, more than half of the nation’s married couples have been together at least 15 years. About a third have marked their 25th anniversaries, and 6 percent have been married more than 50 years."
https://www.washingtonpost.com/local/number-of-long-lasting-marriages-in-us-has-risen-census-bureau-reports/2011/05/18/AFO8dW6G_story.html
50 years may seem like a lofty goal to many married individuals, but why should it be? We said "till death do us part" didn't we? Well, in most cases we did - My wife and I just said we'd do this thing forever (It's a part of being a Member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints).
But back to the matter at hand - How do we improve our relationships, and strengthen them for the long haul?
In his book, The seven Principles for Making Marriage Work, John M. Gottman describes that,
"94 percent of the time, couples who put a positive spin on their marriage's history and their partner's character are likely to have a happy future as well. When happy memories are distorted, it's a sign that the marriage needs help".
So I submit to you an idea;
Write down your history. Make it a point to record every meaningful moment you can remember about your relationship and your spouse.
As you spend time making your marriage into a real life love story, you'll see the future more positively! It will make 50 years seem like not quite enough time!
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In an article by the washington post, an interesting statistic reads;
"According to the census statistics, more than half of the nation’s married couples have been together at least 15 years. About a third have marked their 25th anniversaries, and 6 percent have been married more than 50 years."
https://www.washingtonpost.com/local/number-of-long-lasting-marriages-in-us-has-risen-census-bureau-reports/2011/05/18/AFO8dW6G_story.html
50 years may seem like a lofty goal to many married individuals, but why should it be? We said "till death do us part" didn't we? Well, in most cases we did - My wife and I just said we'd do this thing forever (It's a part of being a Member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints).
But back to the matter at hand - How do we improve our relationships, and strengthen them for the long haul?
In his book, The seven Principles for Making Marriage Work, John M. Gottman describes that,
"94 percent of the time, couples who put a positive spin on their marriage's history and their partner's character are likely to have a happy future as well. When happy memories are distorted, it's a sign that the marriage needs help".
So I submit to you an idea;
Write down your history. Make it a point to record every meaningful moment you can remember about your relationship and your spouse.
As you spend time making your marriage into a real life love story, you'll see the future more positively! It will make 50 years seem like not quite enough time!
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